Category Archives: Our Culture / Ourselves

What Motivates the Self?

Non-dualists talk about the hopelessness of striving for liberation from one’s self, which some call ‘enlightenment’; it will happen, or it won’t, they say, and if it happens, it will be realized (by no one) that the self never was real. … Continue reading

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Fall Out

In recent weeks I’ve heard laments from several colleagues that their lives are so busy (mostly with the needs of of the moment — family, personal, health, financial and workplace struggles, and keeping their homes and other stuff in working … Continue reading

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I Love You, Even Though There Is No You

We are one person, We are two alone, We are three together, We are for each other. — Stephen Stills, Helplessly Hoping Some self-proclaimed non-duality ‘teachers’ play a bit fast and loose with the terms ‘I’ and ‘you’, possibly because … Continue reading

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Never Comfortable in the Skin of Self

I said to my soul, be still, and wait without hope For hope would be hope for the wrong thing; wait without love For love would be love of the wrong thing; there is yet faith But the faith and … Continue reading

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Self-Defeating

May I introduce Dave’s Mind (DM), left, and Dave’s Body (DB), right. They’re quite adorable, but they fight all the time. If you see someone out walking in mismatched socks of these colours, you’ll know it’s their purported owner. You … Continue reading

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When You’re In Love, Nothing Else Matters

At a retreat this past weekend I was contemplating the various times in my life (there haven’t been that many, at least that I can recall) when I have had ‘glimpses’ of what life is like without the affliction of … Continue reading

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A Mantra to Live By

 New Yorker cartoon by the late Charles Barsotti As reported in a recent New Yorker article, the popular trans model Hari Nef was asked for her “mantra to live by”, and her response was “Take what is yours.” When I … Continue reading

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Second Thoughts

image: public domain from pixabay CC0 On several occasions recently I found myself getting angry or anxious, and then almost immediately realized how inappropriate and futile my reaction was. I read about an act of destructive greed, and read an article … Continue reading

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Spoiled By Perfection

There are a few restaurants I’ve visited in my lifetime that prepare everything so well that you are truly spoiled, for weeks thereafter, for eating anything else. The word ‘spoil’ etymologically means ‘stripped bare, robbed’. So being spoiled is a mixture … Continue reading

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The Path from Here to Here

Intellectually, the message of radical non-duality, for the most part, resonates with me. I appreciate conceptually these core parts of the message: The ‘separate self’ with personal identity, responsibility, self-control, free will and choice is an illusion. I understand how the … Continue reading

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