Vignette #2 – Breathe

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Of all the contributions to my recent article on “great advice in 7 words or less“, my favourite was this one word from Siona: Breathe.
 
I was thinking about this as I drove to work, and home again, one day last week. It was another smog alert day in Toronto, and breathing was nearly as hazardous to one’s health as the alternative. But I repeated it, my mantra for the day, as I practiced breathing, and paying attention. Letting come and letting go.
 
One of the ways I’ve learned to improve my attention skills, and also to reduce stress, is to imagine that I know the strangers I look at, and to imagine their story. I started doing this in restaurants. My imagination sometimes gets the better of me, but it’s a useful exercise. It forces you to focus, to pay attention to the details, to look for hints to the story behind the face, to connect the dots.
 
The country road that comprises the first half of my morning commute, and the last half of my return trip, takes me from the protected green belt where I live to the edge of the relentless suburban sprawl. As I enter the construction zone, with depressing subdivision rezoning billboards on every farmer’s field, the traffic bunches up and slows to a crawl behind a cement mixer and gravel truck. On the right side of the road stands an old man who has just collected the mail from his mailbox, on the opposite side of the street from his house. He waits, patiently at first, for some driver to stop and let him cross back. He wears work pants with suspenders, and a checked green flannel shirt over his gaunt, frail frame. He looks tired, worn out, hunched over with a cane in one hand.
 
And then suddenly he loses it. He starts waving his cane menacingly at the drivers that are passing by, ignoring him as if he were invisible, and the look on his face becomes one of pure rage. I imagine him as having once farmed the land now barren and crisscrossed with the tire tracks of construction vehicles. I imagine him having sold the land when, facing high property taxes and hopelessly low prices from buyers of his produce or grain, he received an offer from a big developer that he couldn’t refuse. They’d allowed him to continue to work the land, now their land, for a salary until the city had reached its edges and plans of subdivision had been approved.
 
And now, with no land to farm, he has become useless. Invisible. Nothing to do but wait for busy people with destinations to whiz by, and watch his land become another indistinguishable tract of crowded starter homes. In this imagined context, I understand his rage, and I stop for him. He doesn’t smile, or even acknowledge me. He just shuffles back across the road to his house.
 
Breathe, I tell myself.
 
When I reach the highway, the shiny electronic toll road built for those in a hurry, those with expense accounts, I stay in the third of the four lanes, the designated ‘slow lane’ for vehicles traveling a mere 70 mph. Up ahead, in the fourth lane, is one of the trucks I always dread seeing, the silver-sided tractor-trailers full of small breathing holes, used to take animals to slaughter. I sigh. I want to turn away, to hope or pretend that it is empty. But I have to look, and of course it is not empty. Squashed up against the holes are the pink bodies of pigs, stacked three levels high. Breathe. Most of them are facing inward, it appears — the noise of the highway at rush hour is deafening and bewildering, and perhaps they prefer to look at each other. But near the front, I can make out, through the pattern of holes, one animal facing out towards me.
 
I want to close my eyes, imagining an imploring, terrified, desperate look on this animal, who, like over 90% of farmed animals, has probably lived his sad, monotonous life in the crowded stench of a feedlot. But as my car inches slowly by, the look I see on his face is instead more one of excitement. His expression says: “At last, something new, something important is going to happen.” His look is one of expectation, almost rapture. Pigs are intelligent animals, at least as smart as dogs and cats, and I picture the truck full of fattened pets, ceded by the local pound, and sigh. I am smiling and crying at the same time. Breathe.
 
As I pull even with the cab of the truck I look at the driver. A middle-aged South Asian man, he looks much sadder than his charges. He knows that his sentence is a long way from being over. This will not be his final, eventful journey. He wears a uniform, anonymous, obedient. He looks weary. I imagine him having come to this country, young and full of expectations, only to discover that his credentials are not recognized here, his skills not wanted. In a strange land, with others to support, in a culture he does not understand, with an accent that makes it hard for others to understand him, he has had to find a job, any job. He has done what he had to do, and this terrible work is it.
 
Breathe.
 
Returning home the same afternoon, I watch a Korean woman walking her young daughter home from school. The neighbourhood I’m driving through is a strange mix of Korean and Persian people, with most of the store signs in one of these two languages. My knowledge of Korean culture, other than the Hollywood version portrayed on the Gilmore Girls, is negligible. There are few clues in the faces of the woman and the girl, both of whom move quickly down the street, the girl’s hand tightly gripped in her mother’s, both with faces lowered.
 
But in the woman’s face I see signs of great resolve and pride that remind me of my own mother’s grim determination to make a life here for her family after her young immigration. I imagine the Korean woman’s momentous struggles: to do what she must, coming from a patriarchal culture where women were obedient and stayed at home, to a multicultural ‘consumer’ society where women are encouraged to be independent and two-income families are an economic necessity. Her dress, and her daughter’s, are practical, modest and non-descript, almost like cloaks of invisibility designed for security in a world where dangers must seem incessant and inexplicable. Like that of so many immigrants, the culture they seem to represent is frozen in time, a culture that is disappearing back in their homeland while it is being clung to so fiercely by refugees in this rootless new world.
 
And while the daughter’s face is dutiful and obedient it is also restless and resentful: At some point, like a bone or muscle stretched too far in one direction, she is going to crack, to rebel, perhaps violently or self-destructively. Her expression says that if Michelle Wie can turn heads with her attire and thumb her nose at convention while burning up the LPGA at age 15, why can’t every girl find a new way, a different way, free from the suffocating culture that seems a drab anachronism in a world of breathtaking possibility.
 
Breathe.
 
That thought, of cultures lost and found within larger dissonant cultures, stays with me until I am once again out of the city, where grey has given way to green and industrial smells to natural ones. And then, as I pull into a left-turn lane, I am shaken by the sight of two dead animals, fresh roadkill. They are the corpses of two raccoons, an adult and, beside and just behind it, a baby. The adult’s body is angled, curled towards the baby’s. The story I imagine of their demise is one I cannot bear, and I have to pull over to the side of the road, beneath the trees, and weep.
 
Breathe. Deep, long, gasping.
 
There is no difference between a deep breath and a sigh. Breathe. Focus. Pay attention. Practice. There is so much work to do, and we must be ready, capable. Just breathe, until we know what to do next.

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7 Responses to Vignette #2 – Breathe

  1. David Parkinson says:

    Good heavens… any chance you’ll eventually be able to flee Toronto’s blast radius and live in a more decent place? That description of a day’s commute sounds like HELL ON EARTH.Sympathetically yours,DavidP.S. Sounds like the mixed Korean/Persian area is near where my father lives, around Yonge/Steeles. It’s unfathomable to me & my 2 siblings why anyone would live around there when they could afford not to; but there you go…

  2. Meir Navon says:

    Worderful and so sad story!I found myself breathing with you and seeing your way through your eyes.Thank you so much for this special peice of pure human touch,Meir

  3. Siona says:

    Oh my.How ironic that this took my breath away. Thank you.

  4. Calvin Hobbes says:

    Hi Dave,I am being hard here, so gear up!How about being a vegetarian for a change, instead of the lip sympathy? It is of course hard i can understand, but you can show some real compassion to the animals too i would think.Sorry, for being brutal. Just had to let you know…Love all your posts!!!Thanks,Calvin

  5. Ann says:

    Thank you for a lovely piece, Dave. Sad, true, compassionately observed, beautifully written. Made me cry too!

  6. Dagny says:

    Thanks for the wonderful post. You changed my frame of reference this morning.

  7. vishwa says:

    Dave, you had me gasping in those last paragraphs. Very touching indeed.

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