Dilys at G as in Good H as in Happy links to two great articles in the blog Open Loops. The first lists 16 reasons why employees underperform when given a task (taken from this book), and the second lists 10 reasons why managers underperform (taken from this book):
These lists brought the synthesist out in me. We are all, to some extent, both employees (even CEOs work for their customers) and managers (we all self-manage much of our work). And our behaviour in our work lives is often not that different in our home lives: In both roles there are similar reasons why we don’t do what we should do. And having worked with a Getting Things Done approach now for six months, I’ve become aware that there are many (often very good) reasons why we don’t do what we should, even when we know exactly what we should do. Here’s my synthesized list of the nine reasons we don’t do what we should, in all aspects of our lives, in what I think is order of prevalence.
So what do we do about these things? How do we overcome these obstacles to doing what we should do? For the most part, the answers are pretty obvious once we recognize which of the nine reasons are in play. Lack of knowledge (#3) requires more research, more sharing of information. Trying to do too much alone (#4) requires learning to collaborate, and to delegate. Trying to do too much (#5) requires learning to say no, and to focus on doing one or two things really well. Lack of energy (#7) requires some introspection as to the cause — physical (in which case the solution may be improvements to diet or exercise) or emotional (in which case meditation or a life change may be in order). Lack of reward (#8) requires being good to ourselves, and to others, in balance. Trying to do the impossible (#9) requires some navel-gazing, and either stopping trying to do it (which may require some candid discussion with others who may have put it on our list), or changing it (or our lives) in some significant way so that it becomes possible, or recognizing it is just a dream and focusing energies on other, attainable things, until and unless circumstances dramatically change. The solution to #2 and #6 is much more difficult — these causes of inaction are part of what we are, and will take a long time to overcome. Perhaps just realizing that they are the reason why we’re not doing what we should is an important first step. And there is no solution to #1, except courage. |
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Nice stuff. Just thought I’d point you to a very similar list I drew up a few months ago, of the mental barriers that keep us from taking on the things we want to do in our lives.Chris
Another solution to #1 is to become aware of all those reasons we’re afraid, without blame/judgement. It’s okay that i want respect, the ability (via income) to support myself and others and do other things, etc. Really sitting with the positive urges underlying the fear can often loosen things enough that we’ll move forward. (although having that intent strongly in mind will probably get in the way :)A similar/opposite solution is to become aware of all the reasons that we want to do the thing. Really sitting with those can help naturally raise the motivation enough so that we go ahead despite the fear.These two work together even better. There are tons of learnings that can help with them. Two that i know of and recommend are Nonviolent Communication and Focusing.
Chris/John: Thanks for the excellent links. John: love your blog photo.
Just a word to say great work.
Much appreciation, Dave, for the link and kind words to Good&Happy. I like your gloss a lot.Perhaps you will allow me as a lifecoach to rant for a moment: Almost all of those reasons on the list can be cut through like a hot knife through butter if one1. Triages the tasks and identifies the real priorities (“should I be doing this at all?”); and2. If the blocks and reluctance remain, gets an intelligent triangulation of the view with someone whose job it is to be objective/supportive, and who has gentle but immediate cut-through-the-butter tools, without getting lost in worthy but diffuse philosophical self-improvement. Some coaches offer a free first session, with real work and progress. If it’s not worth a little out-of-the-box effort and even (gasp) expenditure, that may be a signal [triage]…I ranted on the general principle, after using a decorator briefly and effectively, at http://goodandhappy.typepad.com/g_as_in_good_h_as_in_happ/2005/07/get_some_help.htmlAnd there’s lots of help available in GTD, on the How To Save the World blog, and in the realms John Abbe names, too! Thanks por tout, Dave!
Thanks, Paul.Dilys: Coaching is useful for cause #4 (trying to do too much alone) and to a lesser extent #5 (trying to do too much, period) and #7 (lack of energy), and I should have included coaching in my third-to-last paragraph. But I also believe things happen (or fail to happen) for good, complex reasons, and if it was as easy as having someone coach you through your entanglements and disorganization, there would be a lot less failure to GTD and unhappiness than there is. I’ve been both a coach and the recipient of coaching, and I would assess coaching as very useful (in the situations above) but of transitory benefit. Kind of like a plumber when you have constant recurrences of tree roots growing through your pipes — you’re ecstatically unplugged for awhile, but then it comes back. You can only get so far by breaking the task down or talking it out. I don’t think you can change people’s character, and fear, lack of self-esteem, and loss of self are entrenched characteristics of many people’s psyches. They recur as soon as the coach leaves. Or, more correctly, they never really go away.
#10 There is other stuff to do that is just way much more fun…..
Donna: Heh…I was actually thinking of putting “It’s boring” as #10, and “It’s too big” (and needs to be broken into more manageable tasks) as #11.
Dave,Saw this list, made a note about it on my blog, linked you, hope you don’t mind. This is the first I’ve read of your stuff and I’m very happy to have found your blog. I read your post about Courage, too, and have felt the same way often. There’s a lot to be passionate about, a lot of things that aren’t right that need to be made right, but don’t forget #5 and #6. Do what’s in your heart and what you feel must be done, but remember that you’re one person and don’t have to tackle it all. Alone, anyway… #4 :)
Thanks Charles. From the look of your site I suspect that as you get further into my blog you’ll find lots to disagree with. ;-)
Sounds like a good deal to me – I’d be frightened if I looked all throughout your blog and found _nothing_ to disagree with. ;)
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