Vignette #6: A Little Romance

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I have been asked to take this story down. It breaks my heart to do so, because it’s a lovely and extraordinary little story, written in real time by two real people in a world that is in some ways more real than anything that could happenin real life. But I have made a promise to take it down, so I have.

Category: Short Stories
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Life Lessons: Love, Leadership, and Let-Self-Change

workaroundI‘ve been learning a lot in the past couple of weeks. This learning has all come from conversations, not from reading or research. And to my surprise, none of these conversations has been face-to-face or even voice-to-voice. From these conversations, all with good friends, I have learned three important lessons.

One of these lessons I will write about in a separate post. It is all about love and friendship and openness and generosity. The other two are easier to explain, by simply relating the conversations from which they emerged:

Self-Managers Do Not Need Leaders

In a follow-up conversation to my podcast with Jon Husband, in which I stated categorically that “we don’t need leaders”, Jon asked me whether, since I am a senior executive myself, was I not a leader? I replied:

Not a leader. I am a ‘thought leader’ but the word ‘leader’ in that context has a completely different sense. I lead people to new ideas. I don’t tell them what to do with them, or what to do at all, or how to do anything. I listen and offer ideas when I’m asked for them, but even then it’s really as a sounding board and story-teller, not as someone telling people what they should do. I’m somewhere, as Jeremy Heigh and I have discussed, between a facilitator and a coach. Definitely not a leader. Had more than enough of them.

 

In response to this, Jon took me to task for defining ‘leader’ too narrowly. There is much more to leadership (a word, by the way, that has no equivalent word in most languages — I’d speculate because they have no need for one; it means literally ‘the ability to go first’), Jon said, than “telling people what to do”. I replied:

Telling them, showing them, fighting their battles for them, ‘managing’ them, advising them what they did right/wrong, making decisions for them, assessing their ‘performance’, changing their work processes/rewards/environment/organization, setting goals for them, being ‘responsible’ for them, ‘directing’ them, defining their role — all of this stuff is what ‘leaders’ spend virtually all their time doing. It’s all paternalistic, and I refuse to do any of it.
 
My self-set role is to provoke them with new ideas, to listen to them, to relay what others I’ve listened to have told me, to tell them true stories from my own experience, to suggest workarounds when they’re stumped, to do stuff myself that they might find interesting or inspirational, and, when I must (because I’m paid for it) to help them remove obstacles.

This is not leadership even in the broadest sense of ‘leading by example’ because I don’t expect them to ‘follow’. It’s also not ‘liberal’ leadership in the Lakoff ‘nurturing parent’ sense — if I was responsible for a bunch of young apprentices I might play a nurturing role, but our organization doesn’t hire anyone green. So I expect them not to need ‘parenting’ and to be able to self-manage. Self-managers don’t need leaders.

I think Jon and I agreed to disagree on this, but perhaps that’s because I have more faith than most people in the ability of the majority to learn to self-manage. Wild creatures learn the five steps of self-management through a combination of intuition, play and experimentation. We are so indoctrinated with Learned Helplessness it is perhaps harder for us, but my experience has been that when you give people the chance they pick it up pretty quickly.

You Can’t Change People; You Can Only Help Them to Let-Self-Change, and Then Only By Touching Them Personally

My podcast #3, featuring Rob Paterson, will be going up here later this week. I’ve recently been conversing with Rob about how change happens. Rob has an ambitious proposal to help make the people of Prince Edward Island more resilient to some of the crises we see hitting us all in the decades ahead. It begins with radical reform of the education system (more about this in the podcast). The change management process he proposes to bring this about (based on Alan Deutschman’s work) is as follows:

  • THE FIRST KEY TO CHANGE: Relate: You form a new, emotional relationship with a person or community that inspires and sustains hope. If you face a situation that a reasonable person would consider “hopeless,” you need the influence of seemingly “unreasonable” people to restore your hope–to make you believe that you can change and expect that you will change. This is an act of persuasion–really, it’s “selling.” The leader or community has to sell you on yourself and make you believe you have the ability to change. They have to sell you on themselves as your partners, mentors, role models, or sources of new
    knowledge. And they have to sell you on the specific methods or strategies that they employ.
  • THE SECOND KEY TO CHANGE: Repeat: The new relationship helps you learn, practice, and master the new habits and skills that you’ll need. It takes a lot of repetition over time before new patterns of behavior become automatic and seem natural–until you act the new way without even thinking about it. It helps tremendously to have a good teacher, coach, or mentor to give you guidance, encouragement, and direction along the way. Change doesn’t involve just “selling”; it requires “training.”
  • THE THIRD KEY TO CHANGE: Reframe: The new relationship helps you learn new ways of thinking about your situation and your life. Ultimately, you look at the world in a way that would have been so foreign to you that it wouldn’t have made any sense before you changed.

Rob’s proposal is bold (it is based heavily on early child development that involves parents learning how to create a high-trust, authoritative but not authoritarian relationship with their youngsters). It is impassioned, sensible, supported by extensive research, and well-articulated. If anything can work, it will. But I confess I’m dubious. Although I used to be an enthusiast of the leading ‘change management’ approaches, experience suggests to me that they don’t work. They can achieve significant temporary change (which I guess is OK in business, where the short term is all most people care about), but it never seems to be sustainable. There is far too much ‘drag’ from existing mindsets, processes and institutions (i.e. our present culture) to achieve anything lasting.

The best we can do, I think, is help people we meet personally find viable workarounds that work for them, one on one. If we can get a few parents to spend more and better time with their small children, and improve their nutrition, that will be an important accomplishment. It is caring, attention and patience that is required, not persuasion. If you give them time — and only if you give them time — people are open to better ways of doing things. This requires a huge and sustained investment of one-on-one work, and a lot of patience, and improvisation from the teachers, mentors and social workers to adapt their approach to the needs and learning styles of each child and his or her parents. It’s a mammoth task.

People are only up for a mammoth task when they absolutely have no other choice. We do what we must, when we must. For that reason, I fear, it is likely to be a great idea that gets only limited implementation. As I keep saying, things are the way they are for a reason. I suspect in his heart Rob knows the reasons the situation in PEI is especially serious and well-entrenched. I hope I’m wrong, and his program gets adopted and works brilliantly. But if I’m right, I hope Rob won’t get discouraged. It is a great plan.

 
I’ve recently reset my own goals and intentions; they’re now much more personal, singular, modest, inspirational more than aspirational. Stories, not plans. Demonstration not persuasion. Being generous, not ambitious. We only change the people we touch, personally, intensely, generously, unambitiously. We change them by helping them, patiently, to let-themselves-change

And we only have that much patience with people we love. That means we have to learn to love more people, more openly, more generously, no small Let-Self-Change challenge in itself, before we will be ready for the task Rob compellingly argues must begin immediately. I wish we were allup for it, but I just don’t see it.

Category: Let-Self-Change
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Sunday Open Thread: October 28, 2007

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…and yet gasoline prices remain below May/07 levels and the stock market is near record high territory. Huh?

What I’m Thinking of Writing (and Podcasting) About Soon:

Coping With the Strategy Paradox: I met recently with Michael Raynor, who wrote The Strategy Paradox. He’s now looking at what else we can do to deal with this paradox, and he poked some holes in my argument that what we need is resilience, not planning.

The Evolving Role of the Information Professional: Since I listed the five major ‘products’ of my new employer, some people have suggested that this list might define the new role of the information professional in all sorts of organizations.

Why We Need a Public Persona: The journey to know yourself is the first step towards understanding how the world works and becoming truly yourself, which is necessary before you can make the world a little better. As de Mello said, this journey is mostly about getting rid of the everybody-else stuff that has become attached to us as part of our social conditioning, and getting rid of this stuff is perhaps what ee cummings meant when he said the hardest thing is to be nobody-but-yourself when the world is relentlessly trying to make you everybody-else. From birth, we pick up all this everybody-else stuff that clings to us and changes us, muddies us. We are rewarded by society for doing so. I find the ‘figments of reality’ thesis helpful in this hard work — realizing that our minds are nothing more than problem-detection systems evolved by the organs of our bodies for their purposes, not ‘ours’. That ‘we’ are, each ‘one’ of us, a collective, a complicity. What makes it so hard is that becoming nobody-but-yourself opens you up to accusations of being anti-social, weird, self-preoccupied, arrogant etc. So we end up, I think, having to adopt a public persona that is, to some extent, not genuine, not ‘us’ at all. That’s hard. How can we make this public persona as thin and transparent as possible? This is a follow-up to last week’s article on how how we look affects who we perceive ourselves to be.

The Water Crisis: The disappearance of fresh water is likely to be the first wave of the future cascading crises of global warming. Ironically, the second wave is likely to be floods.

Gangs and the Malleability of Human Ethics: Observers of the now decade-long intractable genocides and civil wars in Darfur, Somalia, Chad, Zaire and other African nations describe the same gang phenomena repeated endlessly: Men horrifically tortured and slaughtered, women systematically and repeatedly raped, children kidnapped and forced into slavery and military duty, animals and other resources stolen, and villages burned to the ground. What is it about human nature that so many can perpetrate such atrocities for so long without remorse?

Vignette #6

Blog-Hosted Conversation #3: This week I’ll be publishing my narrated, edited interview of Rob Paterson, which I recorded last week, on a revolutionary overhaul of the education system.

Possible Open Thread Question:

Can you have an intimate loving totally-honest relationship, and become best friends with, a member of the opposite sex, without therelationship becoming sexual?

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Saturday Links of the Week — October 27, 2007

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Ruffed grouse painting by Walton Ford, a satire on the style of Audubon, in The New Yorker. Manatus is the Dutch name for Manhattan, then near-wilderness New Amsterdam, and 1626 was possibly the year of the arrival of Dutch slave ships. Mast was a common Dutch name of the time. Beyond the social commentary, the painting reminded me of my beloved PucPuc (hope she’s doing well, wherever she may be).

The usual weekly report on impending crises:

Global Oil Production to Halve by 2030: A new study by Energy Watch Group predicts that the End of Oil will bring war, social strife, huge economic dislocation and widespread suffering.

Update on the US SouthEast and Western Droughts and Fires: A personal account by someone living in the midst of the crisis.

And the Earth is Reaching the Point of No Return on Global Warming: This from the latest UN study by climate scientists. Oil crisis and global warming crisis ahead, US dollar in free fall, oil at $92/bbl. Yet the stock markets are once again nearing record high territory.

Pacific Ocean Garbage Patch Now Twice the Size of Texas: And doubling every few years. It weighs 3.5 million tons. Thanks to Craig De Ruisseau for the link.

Harper Regime Again Toes the Line on US Blacklist: Canadian customs has again prevented Col. Ann Wright from visiting Canada despite an invitation from Members of Parliament, because she’s on a USblacklist for peaceful anti-war protesting in the US. Disgraceful.

Low-Credit Lender Countrywide on the Ropes: Countrywide is the poster child of reckless lending, and it is trying to recover by selling even more credit to high-risk borrowers. The company reported a $1.2B loss in the last quarter, and the stock price immediately shot up.

And in better news…

Free Online Library of Thinking Guides: From exploratree, tools to help you think better. Thanks to my colleague Greg Turko for the link.

Great List of KM Blogs: Luis Suarez counts down some of the best KM blogs on the Web. I’m proud to have mine on the list.

Dave Snowden on Web 2.0: My friend Jon Husband has done a podcast with Dave. Great stuff.

Thought of the Week: Lyrics of the moving Pink song “Dear Mr. President”:

Dear Mr. President, come take a walk with me.
Let’s pretend we’re just two people and you’re not better than me.
I’d like to ask you some questions if we can speak honestly.

What do you feel when you see all the homeless on the street?
Who do you pray for at night before you go to sleep?
What do you feel when you look in the mirror? Are you proud?

How do you sleep while the rest of us cry?
How do you dream when a mother has no chance to say goodbye?
How do you walk with your head held high?
Can you even look me in the eye And tell me why?

Dear Mr. President, were you a lonely boy?
How can you say no child is left behind?
We’re not dumb and we’re not blind.
They’re all sitting in your cells while you pave the road to hell.

What kind of father would take his own daughter’s rights away?
And what kind of father might hate his own daughter if she were gay?
I can only imagine what the first lady has to say
You’ve come a long way from whiskey and cocaine.

Let me tell you ’bout hard work
Minimum wage with a baby on the way
Rebuilding your house after the bombs took them away
Building a bed out of a cardboard box
You don’t know nothing ’bout hard work hard work hard work. Oh.

How do you sleep at night?
How do you walk with your head held high?
Dear Mr. President,
You’d never take a walk with me. Would you?

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Fantasy Stories

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I attended a seminar recently on carbon cap-and-trade schemes. While skeptics say such schemes are merely a licence to pollute, I have kept an open mind about them. They are a useful subject for discussion and learning. The idea of such schemes is that each country sets a ‘cap’ — the maximum amount of carbon that all users of petrochemicals collectively can import, produce and sell (‘upstream’ schemes) or can emit (‘downstream’ schemes). That cap is then divided into a large number of ‘allowances’ that are given out (or auctioned) to importers and producers of petrochemicals, or to emitters of CO2. The sum of the allowances cannot exceed the cap. To the extent you need more allowances than you’re allotted to continue to operate, you need to buy them from those who aren’t fully using theirs. Supply and demand will then determine the ‘market’ price for these allowances. The lower the cap, the higher the value of each allowance.

It’s an interesting approach in theory, but is has a lot of practical problems:

  • If you use an ‘upstream’ approach, you are effectively just jacking up the wholesale and retail price of petrochemicals. Some have argued that you might as well just put a big tax on petrochemicals, use the proceeds to fund renewable energy sources and research, and dispense with the cap-and-trade scheme entirely.
  • If you use a ‘downstream’ approach, you are massively increasing the number of companies that have to purchase allowances. Some believe the administrative cost of such schemes could exceed the cost of the allowances, and undermine the viability of the whole project.
  • There are a lot of incentives for cheating the system. We all know how well governments enforce pollution laws today. It is likely the cost of bribing officials would be less than the cost of allowances, so it is quite possible that CO2 would ‘mysteriously’ continue to rise far beyond the levels provided for by the cap.

What is more interesting is that the proponents of caps, both environmentalists and polluters (willing to do their part as long as there’s a level playing field) extol the virtues of such schemes, but do so from utterly irreconcilable worldviews.

The polluters and what-me-worry politicians of the Bush and Harper camps see such schemes as a way to avoid Kyoto, implementation of which they believe would be devastating to the endless continuation of the current growth-dependent economy. All we need to do, they say, is set the caps high enough that the allowances are modestly priced and provide a measurable, gradual incremental cost to doing business-as-usual that they can manage, and report on to shareholders and citizens with the appropriate self-congratulation.

The naive environmentalists and technophiles (there were a couple of these at the seminar) see such schemes as a way to quickly and radically curtail carbon emissions by making a ‘market’ that appeals to business and encourages compliance. All we need to do, they say, is set the caps low enough that we can meet and exceed Kyoto, and let the ‘market’ sort out how to do this on its own, without the need for governments or moral suasion. Like credit card fraud and insurance, it’s just a new, measurable cost of doing business.

So at meetings like the seminar I attended, the attendees, at least superficially, smile and shake hands and agree they are of one mind, that this can work if we want it to.

But then when you talk with the attendees one-on-one you hear some nagging doubts. The three bulleted problems above are top-of-mind, but there is a deep sense that this is just too easy, that it’s an optical illusion, a compromise that can’t hold and in fact doesn’t even exist.

And in fact they’re right. It’s all smoke and mirrors. The reality is that the caps that the polluters and right-wing business-as-usual governments want would have to be in the stratosphere, and would be allowed to increase when new oil sources were found or to the extent population rose (and the price of allowances would also be capped, by issuing an unlimited number of additional allowances as soon as the ‘market’ price exceeded that cap). These caps would essentially allow CO2 levels to continue to rise, rather than bringing them down. The minute the caps were lowered, three things would happen: (a) it would become more profitable to circumvent the scheme than to comply with it, even with penalties, (b) authorities would realize that they couldn’t really enforce compliance with the scheme, and (c) the price of the allowances would rise from nominal to astronomical. The polluters would cry foul, and say that wasn’t what they agreed to, and would pour money into the coffers of politicians willing to rescind the scheme.

Meanwhile, the caps that the naive environmentalists and technophiles foresee would initially be so low that these three things would happen immediately. The lawyers would move in to defend the polluters (including governments, who are among the worst polluters) and tie up any attempt to enforce the ‘punitive’ scheme for decades. Remember, ExxonMobil still hasn’t paid for the Exxon Valdez disaster.

I’ve illustrated the cognitive dissonance between the two groups with the graphic above.

At this seminar, this was the elephant in the room. Everyone learned about the scheme, and nodded, but just about everyone knew, deep inside, that this was far too easy a plan to be workable.

At root, both sides have a story in their heads, consistent with their own worldview, and they can’t conceive of any other story. On the one side, the story is all about business-as-usual continuing forever, under the auspices of the oxymoron of ‘sustainable growth’, with minor tinkering as needed, self-regulated and governed by the market.

On the other side, the story is about money from excessive pollution being spent on innovation that will allow us to rise to the challenge of climate change and radically shift from non-renewable to renewable energy in a generation.

The problem is that, while these two stories are close enough that they can, with a bit of nudging, overlap, they are both fantasies. Neither is rooted in reality. The stories that are rooted in reality, like George Monbiot’s Heat, like Jim Kunstler’s The Long Emergency, and like Pierre Berton’s The Great Depression, are so different from the stories that all of us have been brought up to believe, that we cannot imagine them, cannot conceive of them as being true. The Great Depression couldn’t really have been that bad, and it could never happen again, could it? The Long Emergency is a cautionary tale, an exaggeration like 1984, right? Heat is a deliberate hyperbole designed to shake us out of our apathy and stir us to at least try to make Kyoto work, isn’t it?

But they’re not. It is not these three stories of what has been and what is to be that are fiction. It is the stories that we have taught ourselves to believe (because it is easy and because it requires no dramatic action on our part) that are fiction. Alas, it is only when you read and study a lot more than most people have either the time or inclination to do, that you realize this. Most of the world is not yet ready to stop believing their fantasy stories and realize that books like Monbiot’s and Kunstler’s and Berton’s are not ‘what if’ stories, but ‘what was and what will be’ stories. We are not yet ready to acknowledge that continuing to behave and think the way we do, day after day, with or without carbon trading schemes, will lead unquestionably to the desolation of the Earth and the end of our civilization.

I have come to grips with the fact that we do what we must, and that by the time we realize what we must do to save our beleaguered planet and ourselves, it will be far too late. It is not in our nature, or in the nature of any creature, to behave otherwise than as we do. We are preoccupied with the needs of the moment. We have never been otherwise, and we are not wired to be otherwise, no matter how the fervent believers in an emerging global human consciousness deny it.

I said little at the seminar. There didn’t seem any point. But I did listen and nod when, afterwards, all of the attendees I spoke with confessed to some cognitive dissonance, some deep-seated doubt, and told me that it is their fears for the world we are leaving our children and grandchildren that makes them want to believe, yet fills them with nagging doubt, and a growing dread. Our instincts are shouting to us. But we are not yet listening. The elephant is still in the room, and we’re beginning to sense itspresence, but we can’t, and won’t, see it.

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Shhh

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Cartoon from the New Yorker by William Haefeli. Buy his artwork here.

I spent the past weekend at my in-laws’ in Vancouver, celebrating a special birthday. They’re wonderful people, and I really enjoy their company. But since my last visit there I’ve Let-Myself-Change a lot. I’m a much happier and healthier person, more resilient, more attentive, more appreciative, and quieter.

It’s this last quality that those who know me (or at least knew me) seem to find disconcerting. I’m delighted just to be in the company of people I love. I no longer feel the need to fill the silence with conversation, and, when I do talk, it’s more thoughtful, and (to me at least) it’s about things that matter.

I’ve noticed this repeatedly over the past year. Apparently, men listening and paying attention without talking is a suspicious activity. Men don’t observe, it seems, they stare, and a man who appears to be genuinely observing must be a starer practiced at not being too obvious about it. (The gender of the person being observed doesn’t seem to make a difference in this regard.)

And, apparently, a man listening without frequently interjecting is also behaving suspiciously. He must be bored, or patronizing, or distracted by thoughts resonating in his head. If he doesn’t talk a lot to confirm he is listening, well, then, he must not be listening. (Perhaps this is true of women as well, though I suspect that, in conversation with men at least, such behaviour is not even noticed.)

We live in an age when, at any point in time, 2/3 of all drivers and 1/3 of all pedestrians are in cellphone conversations (my own recent survey, another act of silent observation on my part). So there is no room, no time, for observation, for just listening, for paying attention. I speak, therefore I am.

In a singles joint, nothing is more awkward than silence — it is simply unacceptable behaviour. It is considered, I think, a sign of egomania, or voyeurism, or a sign of social awkwardness or social retardation. It is tolerable if you’re very attractive, or a celebrity with an entourage, but otherwise not.

In business meetings, paradoxically, those who speak rarely are often afforded exceptional attention when they do break their silence — at least if they’re men. Women in business, for the most part, aren’t often afforded attention to what they say no matter how they go about it. Even, dismayingly, by other women.

In Second Life, as in real life, it appears that it is up to the male to instigate and dominate each conversation. He is judged by the cleverness of what he says. Women, alas, are judged by their attentiveness, and the quality of their body language — conveyed through something called animation overrides (AOs), a brilliant and diabolical invention by some animation cultural anthropologist too smart for his own good. There is something eerie about this, when this software offers such opportunity to defy real world cultural norms, that so much effort is invested to reproduce them.

I think I am destined to live out much of my remaining life in silence. Both men and women expect me to talk, while I usually prefer to just enjoy the company of those I love, in silence. And these days I love most people, instinctively, without judgement. We are who we are, and we do what we must.

I don’t mind the silence (in fact I find it liberating; it ‘creates space’ for other things to happen, and for things to be noticed). But those whose company I keep seem to find my silence somewhere between unnerving and excruciating.

So, to the women I sit silently beside in the airport bar, or meet wordlessly in Second Life; to the guys in the meetings who mistake my quiet attentiveness for disdain or disengagement; and to those I love who find the silence of my company deafening, my apologies. No offense intended. I simply enjoy your company. I’m sorry you mistake my smilefor something it is not.

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How We Became Everybody-Else

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Ratings of attractiveness of various morphs of portraits of 30 women. Note how closely the average of all 30 portraits resembles the highest-rated morph. From Pierre Tourigny’s flickr site — also check out the two other image sets he refers to in the article below the photo set. More discussion of this at Mindhacks.

After spending a bit of time in the virtual world of Second Life, I’ve become aware of the extent to which how you appear affects your behaviour and your sense of identity. This is partly a function of how others’ response to you affects your self-confidence, and also how your perception of your own physical attractiveness and health affects how you see and project yourself.

If attractive people are seen (rightly or wrongly) as being ‘better’ people in other respects (more intelligent, more important, more successful) and if perception is (to some extent) reality, does our appearance end up playing an important role in the determination of our identity, who we are?

Some surveys indicate (see graphic above) that perceived physical beauty is, more than anything else, principally a function of ‘normalness’, the absence of any abnormality or unusual facial or body features. This suggests that people who look normal (in the sense of being exceptionally unexceptional) will be models of how we want to look. And if appearance affects sense of self and, then perhaps by extension we will subconsciously aspire to be exceptionally unexceptional (i.e. conformists to normality) in our behaviour, character and beliefs. Or in other words, we may be aspiring to be ‘everybody else’ (only more so), with fewer deviations of behaviour, character or beliefs than anybody else. This is a depressing thought, but it strikes me intuitively as consistent with how most people actually behave.

We now live in a world where the weak, ill and ugly can (and do) have as many children as the strong, healthy and beautiful. I have argued before that prehistoric humans were probably, due to natural selection, much more ‘beautiful’ (they were certainly more healthy, anthropologists now agree) than modern humans. If this is true then beauty (exceptional unexceptionalness) is even rarer in modern civilized society, and since scarcity increases desirability, the beautiful may be even more powerful and highly valued.

Perhaps this is why those of us not naturally exceptionally unexceptional strive so desperately (with makeup, clothes, dyes, and even surgery) to appear so, and may also conform fiercely to ‘norms’, to compete for mates when we are at such a disadvantage. We clearly do ostracize those whose appearances, beliefs, character or behavior is very exceptional — we view them as entertainment, as ridiculous. Cartoons and comedy series are mostly built on exaggeration of eccentricities and abnormalities.

In Second Life (except for the few who go out of their way to make themselves look comical) everyone appears beautiful, exceptionally unexceptional, attractive, shaped and looking and dressed with almost astonishing sameness. It is a paradise for voyeurs, exhibitionists and narcissists. But we don’t change our internal self-image so quickly. Deep-seated insecurities, jealousies, aggressive behaviour, timidity and hostility quickly betray the surface beauty.

Perhaps the truly physically beautiful, bathing in real-world adoration, need never set foot in Second Life, and this entire artificial world is a charade, with everyone trying to be ‘normal’, everybody-else, and failing spectacularly. If so, it’s a sad spectacle.

In real life, we may also be trying to be perfectly everybody-else, in search of love, acceptance, appreciation, reputation, wealth and power. This would play perfectly into the hands of those who currently have wealth and power (however acquired), who would like nothing better than mass conformity and obedience to norms. It would also account for the terrible imaginative poverty of modern society — there is no reward for imagination and innovation when everyone aspires to be and act like everybody-else. Even most so-called counter-culture movements (as The Rebel Sell demonstrates) arise largely out of dissatisfaction with some endemic situation or unwanted surprise, or out of the desire to be cool, a model that everybody-else would want to emulate, rather than any intrinsic propensity for non-conformity.

I think this excessive and obsessive conformity is unnatural, and is borne out of modern society’s insecurities of scarcity and low self-esteem, which in turn have been wrought by overpopulation and overconsumption. In a natural world of abundance and awareness and balance with all-life-on-Earth, I believe, we would, like most wild creatures, be astonishingly beautiful, self-confident, peaceful, imaginative, playful, and unafraid to think and act differently.

And as a consequence we would be, like most indigenous human cultures, remarkably diverse, experimenting and playing imaginatively with different ways of thinking, adorning ourselves and living, and different ideas. We would evolve very different languages and forms of art and recreation, just for fun and self-expression, producing art and artifacts beyond the imagining of our culturally and intellectually homogeneous society.

In such a world what ee cummings called “the hardest thing, to be nobody-but-yourself when everyone around you is trying their best every day to make you everybody-else” would be easy. We could, naturally, be nobody-but-ourselves.

I think (as my novel The Only Life We Know will try to show) that this is what the world after the collapse of our modern civilization will be like. I want to create some models, not to help them become that, but to let them remain that, naturally,uncivilized and, most unlike us, free to be themselves.

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Do We Need Leaders?: A Conversation with Jon Husband


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THIS IS PODCAST #2 (28:10) — CLICK ON THIS ARCHIVE.ORG LINK TO LISTEN TO IT. TRANSCRIPT FOLLOWS.

DAVE: As a result of my first podcast, with Chris Corrigan a couple of weeks ago, I decided to explore the issue of leadership, and specifically whether we need leaders at all. The natural choice for podcast #2 was therefore Jon Husband, author of the Wirearchy blog, which proposes that we move to (and suggests we are already moving to) a new method of social organization, driven by social networks and our desire to make our institutions democratic, instead of power and authority.

Our modern systems in affluent nations are largely hierarchical. Our political systems subordinate the individual and the community to the state, and have us leaving all important political and social decisions to political ‘leaders’ who are presumed to know better than we do what is needed, and how to ‘govern’ the body politic. Even our votes for these so-called leaders have become inconsequential in modern political systems whose ‘leaders’ are largely removed from contact with or responsibility for individuals and communities. The issues are dumbed down for public consumption, and political leaders act in their own self-interest, not in ours. Grassroots movements, most recently the failed MoveOn attempt to reassert control over the irresponsible power hierarchy that controls the US political system, are as close as we’ve come to introducing wirearchy into the political arena.

It is much the same story in the business community. The modern corporate structure is inherently hierarchical and anti-democratic — there is no one-man, one-vote in the boardroom. The ‘leaders’ of big corporations are over-rewarded and revered for successes that were the work of the front lines or the result of good fortune, and are fired or chastised for failures that are similarly not their fault. Such is the cult of leadership and the adoration of hierarchy in the corporate world, which, with the advent of globalization, is now ubiquitous. Cooperatives and progressive entrepreneurs in what I have called Natural Enterprises must unlearn all the mythology of hierarchy as the only way to make a living, in order to create new, flat, sustainable organizations that are responsive and responsible to all.

And it’s also the same story in our education systems. As in business and in society, students are ranked into hierarchies, told what to do, and told their ‘place’ in the hierarchy. Failure to strive to raise one’s rank in the hierarchy is considered a fatal character weakness. Those who unschool or home-school their children are considered eccentric, and admonished that they are making it more difficult for their children to ‘fit in’ with modern society. As I’ve written on my blog, the hierarchies of our educational, business and political systems reinforce each other and create a vicious cycle. We are taught that there is only one way to learn, one way to make a living, and one way to live. We are taught to know our place. We are taught to be, as cummings said, ‘everybody else’.

So in my Skype conversation with Jon, I started by asking him whether he felt that hierarchy was embedded in our DNA, and inherently the way social structures tend to evolve, or if he believed, as I do, that hierarchy is unnatural, and that our unhappiness with it and its dysfunctionality are a result of trying to make people think, act and behave in unnatural ways.

(I caution listeners that the audio quality of this recording is not very good, as I reached Jon in a cafˆ©. It does get a little better as the conversation proceeds)

JON: Many people suggest there is hierarchy everywhere in nature, that it’s a natural way of ordering things — that is embedded in our modern culture and it underlies Taylorism, the division of labour and the way work and society is structured, the way we assign and accept roles. It’s quite useful for assigning responsibility and accountability to people for human activities and decision-making. Humans have also used at least symbolic hierarchy, even prior to the modern age, for honouring elders, assigning culpability for wrong-doing, and so on.

Hierarchy is an aid to decision-making. It underlies the whole apparatus and rule of law in our society. In the legal system, judges are the ultimate symbols of hierarchy. They’re elevated to the position where they have the responsibility and authority to make judgements on human affairs.

I don’t think hierarchy is either bad or good. It has acquired something of a reputation in the last 20 years in the notion of command and control, because of the many bad decisions that that notion has engendered. But I would argue that that’s an artifact of organizational structures and the notion of traditional hierarchy in organizations which have been supplemented and distorted by organization designs, compensation structures etc. and hence become problematic. For example Lew Gerstner in his book from the mid-90s about the turnaround at IBM, with well-paid and senior people in IBM delegating upwards, and using hierarchy as a crutch.

DAVE: I asked Jon whether he thought this was inherent human social nature, whether we are inherently hierarchical creatures, or whether this is something that is acquired, learned.

JON: I have a sense that it is not a fundamental aspect of humans; though it is used in past and current societies it is not inherent in the functioning of groups or purposeful activity.

(We went on to chat about intentional communities, and specifically about how expanded Asian immigrant families are probably the most successful intentional ‘communities’ we have — they work together, often crowded into one house, create and run a family enterprise together, and acquire additional property as their work permits. Other than this, we tend in affluent nations to think of intentional community as an anachronism, a relic of the hippie communes of the 1960s and 1970s. We concluded, I think, that we can’t seem to operate politically without someone in charge of the important decisions.)

DAVE: In my last year of high school, a group of us were permitted to work independently and not attend any classes provided we kept our test grades up. Rather than working ‘independently’ we chose to teach each other, to learn collectively, and to learn as much as possible outside the confines of the school. It was a spectacularly successful experiment, as our group won most of the scholarships and increased our grades substantially, but it was never repeated, apparently because it was considered ‘elitist’. Several of us had trouble in university readapting to the expectation we would sit in classes taking notes from droning professors.

Jon told me about his self-directed learning experience at Glendon College in Toronto.

JON: I was asked not to come to class. The deal was I wrote a paper and was graded on that, and throughout my four years I just continued that way. I got very good grades. I would credit that with the fact that now later in life as a result I study and work harder and this is something many people can and do do, reflecting that ubiquitous self-learning impulse; the way of bring this forth and evoking it are incredibly important. John Taylor Gatto’s work shows that industrialists who formed corporations designed school systems to resemble and mimic the hierarchy, standardized curricula, testing and performance management schemes in business. I’m not sure which came first, whether it was the grading systems that led to performance management schemes in work or the other way around. The potential to change that dynamic is there and many people are beginning to act on it. Homeschooling and the horizontal links on the Web are examples of this adding new dimensions to the ways we learn.. This is also reflected in the work of Wim Veen at the University of Delft, his work on Homo Zappiens about how individuals learn, and the implications for school structures and their teaching and learning processes.

Most of the learning we do is in social interactions; that’s also how we develop character, as what we talk about and how we act is mirrored and reflected by others, and that is how we come to understand and know things.

DAVE: I asked Jon: If we learn how to learn without hierarchy, by teaching each other, by doing instead of being told what to do, could it change everything? Could this change in how we learn bring about a change to how we live (our social and political systems) and how we make a living (our economic and business systems)?

JON: I think conceptually that possibility is there. What is perhaps insurmountable is the notion of purpose and how that is married into the service of capitalism. People working in non-hierarchic ways would have to work together in very different ways from the way we do in the capitalist system that is driven by competition and the notion of self-interest, wherein people do things because they want to get things and have more. That’s the dominant structure in North America and Western Europe today and it’s antithetical to the purpose of intentional community, which is to feed and look after each other’s wellbeing and other things that are much less consumer oriented.

To get there, even if we had many people self-learning it would take a large and persistent social movement to change the capitalist system so that people would begin to come together in self-managed and self-governed and self-directed teams and ways. We may be forced to it by a calamitous environmental disaster. It’s possible, but there are large obstacles.

DAVE: I told Jon it sounded to me as if he was a skeptic of Bucky Fuller’s argument that it’s foolish to try to change existing systems, that you have instead to create new ones from scratch that make the old, dysfunctional systems obsolete.

JON: I am a skeptic because I believe the dominant system has been made tighter and tighter so building something new will be a formidable challenge and will be resisted every step of the way. Planned, large scale organizational change has often been attempted, but substantive change only really occurs when there is a ‘burning platform’, when there is no alternative. I like Bucky Fuller’s thinking, and that of other change advocates like David Korten, Barbara Marx Hubbard, Alvin Toffler, but we’re arguably no further along in realizing these visions than we were 20 years ago.

I think it reflects the notions of leadership at all levels, including servant leadership. I don’t think we’ll get away soon from job evaluation methodology which is at the core of the gestalt in many organizations. Nobody really talks about this. I don’t see people in established organizations being willing to let go of the different levels and different pay grades — a lot of this is bound up with the notions of power and status and ego. The pressures for servant leadership and large-scale engagement are growing, so I hope we will see people beginning to explore alternative organizational design methodologies and practices, because once alternatives have been shown to work they will be adopted. WL Gore may be an example, but it’s dated — it’s been held up as the example for 20 years now, and we need more examples that have been shown to work before we’ll evolve models that work for today’s conditions. I think wikis, blogs, social software and Enterprise 2.0 concepts hold a lot of promise, especially among the new digital natives in the workplace. So to that extent my hope continues to spring eternal.

We’ve watched the evolution social computing and social software of blogs and wikis for five and a half years and I think the names for these tools have hurt them and held back acceptance in business.  Because they don’t understand them those in business say they don’t have time to do it, but I think they don’t have time not to do it. I see this becoming the main medium for doing knowledge work, probably supplanting or at least complementing e-mail. It’s all about sharing knowledge and constructing meaning in the context of a given project, socially. These tools make it easy to do that, so I see in ten years these becoming ubiquitous worktools. And that will help address the things we’ve just been discussing to be realized.

DAVE: Finally, I asked Jon what he would suggest our listeners read if they want to know more about servant leadership and the other concepts he’d been talking about.

JON: Robert Greenleaf’s work on servant leadership, Jim Collins’ Level 5 Leadership, Peter Block’s Stewardship (which is the book that made me quit my high-profile, highly-paid consulting career), Patricia Pitcher’s Artists, Craftsmen and Technocrats: the Dreams, Illusions and Realities of Leadership, and Susan Wright and Carol MacKinnon’s Leadership Alchemy are the ones that come to mind.

DAVE: After leaving Jon to his latte in the noisy cafˆ©, I reviewed the resources he had suggested and thought about his answer to the question Do we need leaders? I guess I was surprised that Jon, who has been such a fierce opponent of manipulative, incompetent, bullying, overpaid and overrated leaders for so long, would seem to be saying Yes, we still need leaders, just a new type of leader. Humbler, more democratic, more inclusive, more consultative.

My answer remains an emphatic No. I don’t think people change, and in my experience leaders in politics, in society, in business and in educational systems do, on balance, far more harm than good. Worse, their very presence give us an excuse for inaction, for not taking personal responsibility, for not knowing about and not dealing with issues that need action to be taken by all of us. The natural way to live, I believe, is in community, where all decision-making authority and responsibility are devolved to the collective of the community, arrived at by a combination of consensus and the taking of personal responsibility.

The natural way to make a living, I believe, is in a completely equal partnership with people you love, in community, where all decision-making authority and responsibility are in the hands of the partners, arrived at by a combination of consensus and the taking of personal responsibility.

And the natural way to learn, I believe, is self-managed and life-long, by watching others and doing, practicing, the things one needs to learn to make sense of the world, to live a healthy life, to make a living, to live in community with collective responsibility for the others in the community, and to acquire the sense of personal responsibility needed to do what has to be done to make the community, and the world, a better place to live.

[Postscript: Jon’s offline rebuttal to my conclusion:

The only thing I might quibble with is your conclusion, my “Yes, we still need leaders … ”   What I was trying to say, but did not clearly enough, is that en masse we do not yet “know” well enough, in a wide enough range of areas, that we can operate effectively without leaders.  Our education, socialization and the structures into which we are jettisoned after “schooling” actively work against that awareness, and leave little or no room for practicing … so people have to go through very disruptive processes at some point in their lives if and as they grow disillusioned with the ways they are led and governed, to begin to lead themselves and become (much) more capable of living, loving and working differently, in conditions where self-organization becomes available and attractive.  It demands a new and different set of responsibilities from each individual, of which she and he have to be actively aware and desirous of enacting and embodying.

So there’s a process of unlearning and re-learning that involves throwing over or off much or most of what we “know”  … Yes, I put scare quotes around “know” here and above for a clear reason.  I believe many, if not most people want to get there, once they begin to realize there’s a “there” there.]

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Sunday Open Thread — October 21, 2007

Global Warming Patrick Chappatte
cartoon by Patrick Chappatte

What I’m Thinking of Writing (and Podcasting) About Soon:

Coping With the Strategy Paradox: I met recently with Michael Raynor, who wrote The Strategy Paradox. He’s now looking at what else we can do to deal with this paradox, and he poked some holes in my argument that what we need is resilience, not planning.

The Evolving Role of the Information Professional: Since I listed the five major ‘products’ of my new employer, some people have suggested that this list might define the new role of the information professional in all sorts of organizations.

Does How We Look Influence Who We Presume Ourselves to Be? We know people judge us by appearances. To what extent does the way we make ourselves appear affect our own sense of identity, our ability to be nobody-but-ourselves? If we looked and behaved exactly the way we wanted and felt, what would happen to us? Is our illusory ‘right’ to dress and appear the way we want to, part of the way society keeps us from being who we really are?

Why We Need a Public Persona: The journey to know yourself is the first step towards understanding how the world works and becoming truly yourself, which is necessary before you can make the world a little better. As de Mello said, this journey is mostly about getting rid of the everybody-else stuff that has become attached to us as part of our social conditioning, and getting rid of this stuff is perhaps what ee cummings meant when he said the hardest thing is to be nobody-but-yourself when the world is relentlessly trying to make you everybody-else. From birth, we pick up all this everybody-else stuff that clings to us and changes us, muddies us. We are rewarded by society for doing so. I find the ‘figments of reality’ thesis helpful in this hard work — realizing that our minds are nothing more than problem-detection systems evolved by the organs of our bodies for their purposes, not ‘ours’. That ‘we’ are, each ‘one’ of us, a collective, a complicity. What makes it so hard is that becoming nobody-but-yourself opens you up to accusations of being anti-social, weird, self-preoccupied, arrogant etc. So we end up, I think, having to adopt a public persona that is, to some extent, not genuine, not ‘us’ at all. That’s hard. How can we make this public persona as thin and transparent as possible? This might be a follow-up to the proposed article above.

The Water Crisis: The disappearance of fresh water is likely to be the first wave of the future cascading crises of global warming. Ironically, the second wave is likely to be floods.

Gangs and the Malleability of Human Ethics: Observers of the now decade-long intractable genocides and civil wars in Darfur, Somalia, Chad, Zaire and other African nations describe the same gang phenomena repeated endlessly: Men horrifically tortured and slaughtered, women systematically and repeatedly raped, children kidnapped and forced into slavery and military duty, animals and other resources stolen, and villages burned to the ground. What is it about human nature that so many can perpetrate such atrocities for so long without remorse?

Vignette #6

Blog-Hosted Conversation #2 & #3: Monday I’ll be publishing my narrated, edited interview of Jon Husband, which I recorded last week, on hierarchy, community and education, and later this week I’ll be recording podcast #3, on education and the media, with Rob Paterson..

Possible Open Thread Question:

If you (like me) believe that people are inherently loving, collaborative, peaceful creatures, how do you account for the enduring presence, influence and remorseless atrocities of gangs — militias, street gangs, crusaders, mobs etc?

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Saturday Links for the Week — October 20, 2007


Global Warming Chris Britt
Cartoon by Chris Britt

Canadian consumer debt load becoming unsustainable: A recent survey of Canadians suggests:

  • For all except the richest, net worth is stagnant or dropping, while total assets and total debts are rising. So while people might appear and feel more affluent, they aren’t. They’re also terribly vulnerable to a spike in interest rates, a US-style housing price slump, a job loss, pay cut or a decline in the value of their investments.
  • What’s really scary is that they don’t think they’re vulnerable to any of these things. The only people who do are those who have found out the hard way, from actual experience.
  • They think their debts are falling when they aren’t, they’re just shifting, especially to unsecured consumer credit card debt.
  • Many Canadians have more debts than assets, i.e. a negative net worth.
  • In addition to the negative-net-worth segment, many Canadians are living beyond their means — they are depending on future increases in income or housing prices to make their debt load manageable and repayable.
  • Really only a small proportion of older, wealthier, long-tenured employees have defined-benefit pension plans, the only plans that are relatively recession-proof. The next decade may see the last group (early boomers) who will ever be able to afford to retire.

Debilitating drought grips US South-East and parts of US West: The NYT reports that several regions of the US, notably the South-East, are facing their worst drought in a century. Listen to the interviewees’ comments in the report and you’ll see why water shortages are so insidious — they creep up on you and cause unimaginable chaos.

The Right to Security — but not to insurance: Many of us in affluent nations take security for granted, and view it as our right. 9/11 has changed that, but nevertheless our approach to coping with risks to our security that are low-probability but high-consequence (like hurricanes and earthquakes) is to buy insurance. But what happens when (private profit-oriented) insurance companies just stop selling insurance to those who need it?

Grim news on the Peak Oil front:
Jim Lemon of U of Toronto (via Charles Hall) offers this synopsis of the latest (Oct. 15) edition of Peak Oil Review:

  • The high record (nominal) prices in oil on Friday ($90/bbl) reflected the International Energy Association’s projection of oil shortfalls, climatologists’ expectation of a colder winter in North America and Turkey fussing about Kurds.
  • Canadian natural gas story again–fall off of output–decline in exports to US; IEA says the Alberta tar sands will only “dent” the need for oil (Eric Reguly reported this in Globe and Mail in which he says that that they are hardly our saviour)
  • Kazahstan’s big new field slow in starting (I recall difficult geology at the north end of Caspian)  etc.
  • Interesting and enlightening analysis of peak vs plateau view of oil (incl liquid natural gas) future.  Dutch author says the super giant/giant fields have been on a plateau since 1980 and from his graphs he thinks conventional oil peaked in 05/06 (as we have noted earlier). So how much more can come from enhancement meaning new technologies, the ability to get resources in ‘reserves’ category (that is possible+probable+proven) to the probable+proven category. Proven usually means 90% if I recall, probable 50%. He thinks we will hold more or less on a plateau for the next 3 years, but then…  

Achieving Zero Waste: Dale Asberry’s new blog points us to this exhaustive global survey of attempts to achieve zero waste in human activities, by Michael Jessen. Zero waste is an absolute precondition to sustainability.

Great short video on the Information R/evolution: Just go watch it. Fascinating. Send to me by three readers, which is exactly the video’s point. Watch more of cultural anthropologist Michael Wesch’s brilliant stuff. Like this one on education. And this one on how the point of Web 2.0 is that we are teaching the machine what’s important and why, and that we are the machine.

The end-state of Reality TV?: For voyeurs and exhibitionists everywhere, you can now anonymously broadcast your life 24 hours per day, or watch any of a hundred other people’s, thanks to justin.tv
My blog mentioned in Toronto Globe & Mail: Technology columnist Shane Schick reviewed one of my recent blog posts in Thursday’s Report on Business in his regular Recommended Links column. Another fifteen minutes of fame.

Thought for the Week: Via Johnnie Moore, from Gabriele Lakomski’s book Managing Without Leadership:

Our everyday experience tells us that organisational life is messy and complex and that those in positions of leadership are neither omniscient nor infallible. Why, then, do we quite readily believe that there is a causal link between organisational functioning and leadership? Why do we not believe our own experience that how things work in organisations is much more complicated?

…In a naturalistic redescription of the [leadership] phenomenon, we might view it as an emergent, self-organising property of complex systems. There would then be no need for engaging in more leadership studies: instead, we could redirect our attention to the study of the fine-grained properties of contextualised organisational practice.

Posted from Vancouver.

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