RELATIONSHIPS & COMPROMISE

Posted on May 22, 2003 by Dave Pollard
relationships The latest infectious meme in the blogosphere, which suggests that perhaps the best relationships require no compromise at all, started when one blogger innocently observed that a prime example of how compromise works in marriage is the process of deciding “which movie shall we see”. Before you go see what others have to say on this subject, think about where you stand on this spectrum:

  1. The best relationships require and achieve compromise on all things, big and small.
  2. The best relationships let you compromise on small unimportant things, but quickly achieve shared consensus on things that matter.
  3. Compromise depends on the nature of the relationship. In a romantic relationship compromise is necessary, but in friendships it isn’t.
  4. The best relationships require honesty, and too much compromise is dishonest and leads to chronic unhappiness in the relationship. Generally, women know where to draw the line better than men, and end a relationship that compromises too much.
  5. The best relationships require no compromise at all. Life is too short and precious to sacrifice what you really want for one relationship.

Decided where you stand? Now how about business relationships — is your position different? OK, now you can start with Caterina ‘s post and follow the thread. I’m going to shut up for a change and listen to what others have to say before I add my two cents.

AN ASIDE ON SIDELINKS BARS
Caterina has also started a “sidelinks” bar, a list of links to interesting issues or subjects , with no or minimal commentary. I think it’s a worthwhile idea, but I can’t help thinking that if we agreed upon some principles for these, they’d be more useful and we could even get blogmakers to build them into the tools. Take a look at Caterina’s (see link above) and those of two ‘A-list’ bloggers she refers to that I haven’t mentioned before: Anil Dash and Jason Kottke . What do you think? What should they be called? Should they have no commentary or a teaser? What’s the ideal number? Look for mine, in the right column that has more room, shortly. I’m thinking of calling it incubating memes.
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4 Responses to RELATIONSHIPS & COMPROMISE

  1. filchyboy says:
    May 22, 2003 at 10:53

    Very disappointing that eatmorewords failed.Caterina always has the greatest links. These remandered links are a return to the original purpose of blogs, before they became known by that name. It has been on my to-do list to incorporate my remander link system into my blog. So many things to do so little time.

  2. Marie Foster says:
    May 22, 2003 at 13:13

    In some cases I think we suffer from TMI. Each day that passes I feel that I get more filled up with stuff that I have no filing space for.

  3. Dave Pollard says:
    May 22, 2003 at 17:47

    I’m really proud of both Caterina and Mark Woods, who are the most prominent Canadian ‘A-list’ bloggers, and deservedly so. Filchy, why are they called ‘remaindered’ links?Marie, just wait until you get to the stage where you can’t find any of the stuff you do have filing space for (mental or physical) because you can’t remember what it was called or where you put it.

  4. Michael says:
    May 23, 2003 at 14:40

    Dave,I just noticed your ‘incubating memes’ list… looking good. I hope to do something similar as soon as I can get some time to figure it all out. And thanks for the heads up on those other people’s sidelinks. I’ve founds some true gems on those lists, especially Anil’s.

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